"If we're all alone, we're all in that together too"

I was going to write about eating disorders tonight thanks to the amazing Carrie Arnold, but I just finished "PS I love you" with Hilary Swank and a certain line got me thinking.... She is crying hard after realising that her husband really is dead and really isn't coming back and she feels very alone and she and her mother go for a walk and they're talking and her mum talks to her indicating that she understands what its like to be in a crowd of people that you care about but still feel alone and then she says, "If we're all alone, we're in that together too."

Now I don't think we're all alone, actually I think the opposite. I believe this in part because of how I was bought up and a LOT to do with my experience of the world around me and especially God. I'm also aware that as you reach out and help others and allow yourself to BE helped by others (not just one way), then we make stronger relationship connections. And those connections can sometimes cause very real pain and hurt and despair and other times can cause immense joy and excitement and contentment....and the same people can create emotions and experiences at both ends of the spectrum.

But yet, sometimes we are still out in the world, maybe going for a walk, maybe shopping, maybe out with friends and we feel distinctly and completely alone. It's almost like even if we tried to communicate the depth of emotion and thoughts and feelings at those times, they'd come out in gibberish leaving us even more and more isolated. In my (limited) experience, this is felt even more intensely when we experience these feelings amongst people we know and love and cherish....I think because we don't think we SHOULD feel that way when we're with people.

However, in some ways we truly are alone. If you have a chronic illness of any description there are times when you realise that only you are the one that can change certain things or respond in certain ways or live a certain life...and sometimes we realise that our actions have ripple effects and impact others but it is still us alone that creates that ripple. But in other ways we're never alone because God created us to be interdependent beings....humans that have a life and a role and passion to undertake all sorts of things with other people in life, where we have our own strengths and own weaknesses but so does everyone else and together we make the world that we live in....

But the thing with the quote is...that even if I'm completely wrong and there is no God and somehow more miracles occurred then is good sense to believe and created this planet on which we live, and if I'm so wrong that we're not always alone to the point where we ARE always alone.... the truth remains that IF that was truth, then the following truth is that that is the fate from all humanity....so to follow that one step further, we can never actually be alone if everyone else was to experience at least something of humanity common to everyone.

So next time you feel alone, if you have any faith in God, talk to him and let him remind you that you're not alone and that YOU aren't responsible for fixing everyone, he is and you're his brave and willing instrument....but if you don't have faith in God, remember that humanity shares a common element and in that are some very common feelings and therefore you're not alone either, you might FEEL alone but you're not ACTUALLY alone.